One morning a professor of philosophy stood in front of his class and wordlessly began to fill a very large and empty mayonnaise jar with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.

The professor picked up a box of tiny pebbles and tipped them into the jar.

He shook the jar lightly allowing the pebbles to roll into the open areas between the golf balls before asking the students if the jar was full.

They agreed it was.

Next the professor poured a box of sand into the jar filling up all the remaining space and once more asked his class if the jar was full.

The students responded with a unanimous "yes."

The professor then produced two glasses of wine from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, the students laughed.


"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The 'golf balls' are the important things; your family, your children, your health, your friends and your passions.

In other words, all those things that if everything else was lost, and if only they remained, your life would still be full.

The 'pebbles' are the other things that matter like your job, your house, your car, holidays, etc.

The sand is everything else, all the small stuff.

Now if you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the 'pebbles' or the 'golf balls'.

The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are truly important to you.

So pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness, play with your children, take care of your health, make time for your friends, and go out to dinner with your partner because there will always be time to clean the house and fix the car.

Set your priorities and take care of the 'golf balls' first, for they are the things that really matter.

All the rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and asked, "What does the wine represent?"

The professor smiled, "I'm glad you asked. I was also showing you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of glasses of wine with a friend."

When you hit your mid-forties and early fifties did you begin to sense a change in your physical well-being?

Was there an underlying sense of confusion, maybe a re-evaluation of where you were going in life?

Did your stress level rise?

Did you find yourself looking for a “no strings attached” relationship?

Had you suddenly lost your direction on what you thought was important in life?

Did you begin purchasing new material goods like a sporty car, motorcycle, jet ski or jewelry because you felt they “represented” your true personality?

Well men, women may not be the only ones who suffer the effects of changing hormones.

Studies by renowned doctors are reporting that some of the same symptoms that women experience in menopause are occurring in men.

Welcome to “Andropause” or as I like to call it: “Man-O-Pause.”

Because men do not go through a clearly defined period like women’s menopause, some doctors refer to this problem as androgen (testosterone) decline in the aging male.

As we age men, whether we like it or not, we begin to experience a decline in the production of our male hormone testosterone.

Along with the personality and character changes I questioned about above some men may experience:

·         Excessive Fatigue
·         Muscle Weakness or Loss
·         Depression
·         Loss of Mental Acuity
·         Sexual problems

Is this phenomenon for real or just another health issue that sounds exciting on the Dr. OZ show?

Well, the medical community is still debating whether or not men really do experience well-defined effects from Andropause but the obvious changes that older men are experiencing have become visible enough that they continue to be researched and diagnosed throughout the healthcare industry.

In his 2009 book “The Andropause Mystery: Unraveling Truths About the Male Menopause” Dr. Robert S. Tan the director of the OPAL Medical Clinic (that works with both men and women) in Houston, Texas draws upon his many years of treating older men during their Andropausal years to share his personal research findings to define the Andropausal biological milestone for the aging male.

In his book he describes the evolving physical, sexual, psycho-social and mental challenges encountered by men in their late 40’s and 50’s.

He explains the role of hormones and supplements relevant to the Andropause phenomenon.

He also offers his unique perspectives on memory loss, erectile dysfunction and sexuality during the Andropause period.

According to Dr. Tan, menopause or the decline of hormonal degrees comes to pass similarly in both men and women.

As men reach the age of 50+ the signs become more noticeable.

There is marked hormonal decline as a man ages, and this in part causes the aging process.

Androgens basically create “masculinity” and the loss of Androgens, such as testosterone leads to physical changes.

Dr. Tan confirms the changes we talked about above, including the decline of virility accompanied by being tired, fast mood swings and even heart palpitations appear.

  • There is loss of early morning erections.
  • The skin can get dry, and there is hair loss.
  • Hair loss occurs not only in the scalp, but also in the genital area as well as in the armpits.
  • The testes can also get smaller.
  • There can be loss of height because of osteoporosis.

Men point out that erectile dysfunction is by far the notable event throughout Andropause.

Below is a questionnaire in the medical field called the “Aging Male Symptom Scale (AMS)” which has been popular for years in screening for possible Andropause.

If you answered yes to #1, #7, or any three others, you may have symptoms associated with Andropause.

AMS Questionnaire

1. Do you have a decrease in libido (sex drive)?
2. Do you have a lack of energy?
3. Do you have a decrease in strength and/or endurance?
4. Have you lost height?
5. Have you noticed a decreased enjoyment of life?
6. Are you sad and/or grumpy?
7. Are your erections less strong?
8. During sexual intercourse, has it been more difficult to maintain your
erection to completion of intercourse?
9. Are you falling asleep after dinner?
10. Has there been a recent deterioration in your work performance?

Obviously, if you think you are experiencing some of these symptoms that lead you to believe you are in early stages of “Andropause” then talk to your family doctor immediately.

As I have done in the past and must do here again, let me state that I am in no way, shape or form a doctor nor have I ever played one on television so do not rely on my information to make your medical decisions.

Go see a professional.

Take heart men because, like with women, there is strong support from the medical field that these symptoms can be reversed with proper hormone therapy, but the relationship of these symptoms to decreased testosterone levels is still considered controversial.

There is a wealth of information on the internet showing that Andropause, if symptomatic, can be treated in various ways and in numerous combinations.

These can include:

The biggest issue is that many men will never submit to seeing a doctor for these symptoms because they feel it makes them either vulnerable or dependent.

This is where wives, girlfriends and significant others need to step up.

Andropause, like female Menopause, is another profound journey that requires the positive participation of everyone that is affected by its symptoms.

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PictureMadonna Exposed
Baby Boomers,

It's been a couple of months since my last relationship ended.  So, let's say it's been at least a couple of months since the last time I experienced the pleasures of a female partner. Things get pent up. I understand that. But, I had thrown myself into my work and rebalancing my life, so I hadn't given women or sex much room for thought.

That is until this morning when I found myself mmmm.....

And what triggered this precipitous action to happen........ Madonna's breasts.

I know what you are thinking.

Really, Madonna's breasts?

Let me step back and I'll explain.

It was another typical morning.  I jumped out of bed at 5 AM with a head full of ideas for my blog.  In the throes of research, I ran across an article on, of all places, the Huffington Post titled "Why It Took Me Until My 50's To Feel OK About Masturbation" written by Erica Jagger.  It's an interesting confession of her personal triumph over the negative cultural connotations of sexual self exploration.  

Erica hosts her own blog forged with the purpose of igniting conversation about the sexual power of Baby Boomer women.   You can join her by visiting www.asexywomanofacertainage.com. 

OK, I'm not ashamed to admit that when reading her article I got a little aroused.  Hey, I was reading about women masturbating and it has been a while since I have had any, ah.......satisfaction.

Anyway, I continued on reading a few more articles in Huffington post when I run across a blog from Stephanie Marcus, the Entertainment Editor for Huff Post titled "Madonna Poses Topless For Interview, Talks Drug Use."  

Right there, in the middle of the article is a photo of Madonna, lying on the floor in black nylons and bustier and a white blouse completely unbuttoned, exposing her breasts.

Here is a well respected global news outlet and a 56-year-old pop star breaking every rule that our chaste, moral and at times extremely archaic society has set.

  • Posting nude pictures of a woman freely and publicly
  • Posting nude pictures of an influential Pop Icon
  • Posting nude pictures on a dignified and venerable world wide news site

and even worse..........

  • Posting nude pictures of a 56 year old woman.

PictureErica Jagger
What's happening to this world?  Since when has it become mainstream journalism to post provocative photos of senior citizens?

I don't know, but I am definitely proud of The Huffington Post for having the courage to do it.

And you know what?  She looks good.  She looks real good.  I would never have guessed she was as old as I am.  

So what triggered my urge when I first looked at her photo?  I mean, she's not a beauty in the neoteric sense.  She's doesn't have the hottest body or prettiest face.  You wouldn't see this picture in a Victoria's Secret ad.  Her skin is untanned and pale. You could tell her breasts have lost that youthful firmness as they lay cupped in her bustier.  Her nipples are typical, even ordinary.  

But this photo of her exudes raw sexuality.  The bustier looks provocative on her.  Her breasts are not perfect, but they are real, authentic, honest.  These are the same breasts you could see on any woman; a friend, a neighbor a co-worker.   She looked damn sexy to me,  especially after I read she is 56 years old, my age.

Well, the bottom line is the picture got me aroused and........well you know the rest.  I guess it had been a while.

So I pose this question to other men my age.  How often has this happened to you?  

And how about you, Erica Jagger?  Do you get so excited when you see a sexy photo of George Clooney or Channing Tatum on the internet that you find yourself heading to the top shelf of your closet and the little red and black box that houses your purple wand?

I hope I am not alone here.

Please leave your comments below.

Now, I just have to get that Madonna picture out of my mind.  I have stuff to do today.

PictureMadonna Nude
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Baby Boomers,

Who doesn't need a good laugh now and then.

Below is a video I found which was posted by a cosmetics company called Rituals Cosmetics.

It will make you laugh.

Kudos to them for such an ingenious marketing idea.

I hope it goes viral.

I guarantee you will laugh.

Some people might comment that a single person, without purpose, creating uncontrollable random laughing in a crowd is an indication of a deeper psychological issues in the human race.

To me, it proves there is a "thread of life" we all share.

At first, the people look annoyed at best.

Then they begin to laugh nervously as if they were missing something.

Then that trigger of authentic humanity takes over.

The simplest form of "cause and effect."

We have to laugh, we want to laugh, we need to laugh.

This is human nature at its finest - clear, pure and intimate.

If you project this behavior up to the "big picture" scheme of things what do you find out?

People, all people, need to connect with our fellow human beings, we want to connect with our fellow human beings, we have to connect with our fellow human beings.


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Picture"The FERVID 50'S"
Baby Boomers,

Do you remember an article I wrote several months ago about cutting loose in your "The Fervid 50's?" 

In this article, I asked everyone in their 50's+ to turn the temperature up a little on their lifestyles by taking a few chances and spreading your wings a little more than usual.  You know what?  We have earned the right to live and display our personalities with a little "shock factor." Remember, we are not dead yet and the skies the limit when it comes to risk and adventure. 

The real question is, are you game?  Can you live like you are dying and without any regrets?  This goes for not only married Baby Boomers and those in a secure relationship. If you are single, divorced or widowed, are you willing to take a few chances when it comes to how you engage the dating scene?

Today, looking for a new relationship in your Baby Boomer years is A LOT more commonplace today than it was 20 years ago.

But, it is also much more complex.  Even more so if you have young kids.

                  Dating in your 50's

More and more Baby Boomers are finding themselves "single" in their 50's whether it is from the loss of their spouse or from a divorce.

In my case, I chose to become "divorced" a couple of years ago.  This was my second attempt at a lifelong commitment that wasn't.  So, I found myself in an unfamiliar and unique situation.  I was newly single, happy, financially secure and surrounded by my kids who are all adults with children themselves.

But, I really hadn't dated in any serious fashion in over 20 years.  Between you and me, I really had no intention of hitting the dating scene again or even any idea how to prepare for it in case I wanted to date again. 

Luckily, there is an enormous amount of support and advice available to those interested in successfully navigating the world of dating again.

In my research on this subject, I found a wonderful article on the website "The Single Moms Guide to Dating" which is a site actually sponsored by eharmony.com.  


I know it says "Single Moms, " but it applies to single Dads just as easily.  Trust me on this one.  I know what a single Dad's  life is all about.  I was a single Dad raising 2 young children for over 10 years back in the late 80's/early 90's.  It can be difficult.  It can be trying.  It can make any attempt at dating a nightmare.  It is an experience I would never trade.

So, in honor of all over 50+ "single" Moms and Dads out there, I offer you the following sage advice from "The Single Mom's Guide to Dating" mingled with my own witty repartee.

           6 Things to do Before Dating in your 50's

1) Clean Out Your Closets (literally and metaphorically)

In any significant relationship you collect a lot of “stuff.”  There are physical mementos, photos, clothes and furniture of varying degrees of value. This is a perfect time to figure out the things you’d like to leave behind and the things you’d like to take with you. It’s not a time to be nostalgic or attached. Go through your “stuff” and see what will really serve you in the next stage of your life. 

When in doubt, throw it out!

2) Money Matters: Understand and Organize Your Finances

Consider the classic joke: "How can I be out of money when I still have more checks?"

Money is one of the most misunderstood issues out there. After you split, your assets split, but you now hold all of the responsibility for managing your own finances. You may have been the one in your marriage who kept the books and filed the taxes, or you may have avoided looking at a bank statement ever since you said, “I do.”

Regardless, now is the time when it’s imperative for you to face any fears and understand every detail of your debits and credits.

3) Let’s Get Physical

We aren't talking about the song by Olivia Newton John. Nor am I suggesting that you jump into bed with the first sex-toy that shows up. What I mean is that you need to take care of your body. This means getting a physical from a doctor or dentist so you’re up to date with things like pap smears, mammograms, prostate exams, hormones and oral hygiene. Not to mention every day exercising and eating well. When you feel good, everything else is easier.

You've got a lot on your shoulders and you need those shoulders to be strong.

4) All Systems Go

Your family has gone through a lot of change. That can make everyone anxious……even the family pets. The best way to transition smoothly to a new lifestyle is to build in routines that can be depended upon. Create predictable visitation schedules with the kids.  Continue to have family dinners. Create special bedtime rituals.

When the mechanics of your new home and life are running well, there will be more time for play.

5) Spend Quality Time with Your Kids

When you’re on your own, it can be easy to get caught up in the details of handling everything and lose sight of the big picture. There might be so much more to manage, but give yourself permission to goof off.
Put down the laundry and play a game of Monopoly with the kids. Paint your daughter’s nails. Just sit and watch a video and share a bowl of popcorn..

Your kids will remember these things more than any clean shirt.

6) You Get By With a Little Help from Your Friends

One of the worst parts of divorce or loss of a spouse is that friendships can shift and change. Who is your backup going to be? Who makes you laugh? Who makes you feel like your best self? Who’s really in your corner?

Find out who your true friends are and don't be afraid to ask them for help.  Make sure you are surrounding yourself with positive, helpful and supportive friends not just "drinking buddies".

As you take that ever cautious and frightful step back into the world of dating, you want it to be your most confident and alluring step.

You don’t necessarily need to travel the world for a year, buy a new Porsche or get hair transplants to get a new perspective on your future.But, one thing you do need to grasp, is that there needs to be a pause before beginning again.  Feel your feelings. Mourn what you lost.  Get yourself on solid ground by taking these six steps and you’ll be ready to make a clear-headed choice about your future.

If you found today’s blog helpful, interesting, or even funny, I bet your friends would too. 

It's easy to tell them about it.

Forward it on to them or just email them my blog link at www.survive55.com.

The more Baby Boomers we can help, the better place we make this world !!!

Thanks for joining me..........................................................

Today is "Silly Saturday" Baby Boomers.

It's time to be silly.

It's time to be really silly.

It's time to be really, really, really silly.

It's time to be so silly that after you get done with this blog you are going to say to yourself:

"Damn, that was really silly."

Below is a little slideshow of 15 of the simplest "silly" jokes I have ever heard.

I found them in a post on one of my favorite websites "StumbleUpon."

The caption read:

Reddit user that goes by the name xHOLEx asked the Reddit community:

 “What’s a joke that’s so stupid it’s actually funny?”. 

This list is almost guaranteed to make you laugh out loud or groan in a disapproving fashion.

I have to agree.

So, do you have any really "silly" jokes you would like to share with the rest of the Baby Boomer world?

Please add them to the comment section below.

If you found my blog helpful, interesting, or even funny, I bet your friends would too. 

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It would be great if you told everyone you knew about Survive55.com.

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